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Are Sober Living Homes Coed?

Some sober living homes are coed while others are gender-specific. There are benefits to both situations and the choice you make should be based on which setup will be most conducive to you or your addicted loved one’s ability to remain focused on recovery. Which one will best serve your needs? You can discuss the options available to you and weigh the pros and cons with the assistance of an admissions coordinator at 877-345-8494.

Benefits of Coed Sober Living Homes

Coed sober living homes provide a number of benefits to residents, including:

  • Learning how to communicate with both genders
  • Getting different perspectives on situations that may be pertinent to your experience and your ability to stay clean and sober
  • Identifying a “big sister” or “big brother” in the group that offers mentoring support
  • Learning how to remain focused on recovery despite the temptation to develop a romantic relationship with a peer

Romantic relationships between residents is never allowed in a rehab or a sober living home, and if residents can avoid this pitfall in coed living, then there is a host of benefits to be had in a mixed-gender environment. Close peer relationships can develop across genders and when there is a mix of age groups as well, it can create family-style connections. These interactions can provide unique perspectives that can be beneficial to therapeutic growth and processing of past family relationships and ongoing issues in recovery.

Benefits of Gender-Specific Sober Living Residences

In some cases, living in close quarters with the opposite sex is uncomfortable. Residents who have had negative experiences with the opposite sex may not feel safe or comfortable opening up in a therapeutic setting or addressing certain issues in recovery around the other gender. For example, women who have been physically or sexually abused by a man, and men who have had issues with emotionally abusive women, may prefer to choose a gender-specific sober living home so they feel more comfortable.

Additionally, gay and lesbian residents may feel more comfortable choosing a gender-specific residence as well.

One of the major benefits of a single-gender sober living situation is the option of intensive focus on issues that face that gender in recovery.

Women may get the help they need to deal with the ups and downs of hormonal changes through the years as they relate to recovery, workplace issues that face women, and family relationship issues women must navigate. Men may get the assistance they need to deal with workplace and career pressures, physical issues that are problematic for men, and family relationship assistance specific to their needs.


Which is the right choice for your situation: a gender-specific sober living home or a coed sober living environment? Here are a few issues to consider as you make your choice:

  • Will I be able to focus on my recovery if I have peers of the opposite sex who are constantly around me?
  • Will I feel free to talk about certain issues that may be holding me back in recovery in front of both genders?
  • What assistance do I need in recovery, and will the presence of the opposite sex in any way thwart that goal?

Consider how each situation will aid or hinder your progress in recovery and then contact us at 877-345-8494 to be matched to the best sober living situation for your needs.